Colorful stripes are not necessarily my 'go to pattern'. If you take a sneak peek into my closet you will see tons of florals, a dash of leopard and some dots but little or no stripes, let alone in rainbow colors.
I purchased this t-shirt dress (yes it is a dress, but due to the lenght of my legs it would be super mini so I tucked it in and wear it as a shirt) on Asos and although its knitted, it's thin and fairly comfortable to wear, even during in warm Summer days in Barcelona.

70s STRIPES AS INSPIRATION 

My inspiration for this post were 70's stripped knitted tops however I went for bright Summer hues rather then brownish Fall colors 70's looks used to feature along with flared, high waisted denim pants or A line mini skirts.


Instead of long flare pants I went with black, high waisted culotte pants and orange suede leather, super soft and comfortable pumps by & Other Stories.




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There are many things I got blown away this past week (not just a strong wind in Barcelona ッ). We got a feminist of color entering the royal family and pulling it into 21ct, but I have been also blown away with many cases of #momshaming on social media as well as women being nasty to other women for one reason or another. 

Isn't it hard enough to be a woman, let alone a working mom in this day and age with various economic, lifestyle and peer pressures all around? We are literally bombarded with informations and trends on how are we supposed to parent, look like after having kids or managing our life and career if we decide not to have kids?



THE BLOWN AWAY #OOTD

Let me knock out the information about this look first, as those who follow me for a while know I feel most comfortable wearing maxi dresses with booties or jeans.

This look stayed with me even after I became a mom because it is simple enough to put together and it's not difficult to move in when running after a toddler or sitting in the sand in the park or on a beach.

In this post, I am wearing a rather sheer Zara knitted dress with low cut front and back cleavage. I usually wear it with sleeveless black top or a bra while during colder months I wore it with a black turtleneck. I decided to post this look as I love the pieces of clothes which you can style differently and wear 365 days per year as part of different #ootds. The dress is so light you can wear it over a swimsuit with flip-flops.

I styled this dress with black Free People booties which I wear a whole lot and with my new mini YSL LouLou bag which was a gift from me to me for a recent work project completion (and payment finally, YAY!).



TO BE OR NOT TO BE A MOM

Before I became a mom and during my last corporate job where I often worked very long hours I did sometimes feel like 'that single career girl who doesn't have a family' as a couple of times I was told to do another female colleague part of the job because she has to go pick up her kids or to sign something that arrived in mail to our office because colleague who was there to take the mail ahead of me didn't want to be responsible if something goes wrong 'I have kids you know' she said. Then and there I swore to myself that when I have kids I won't use them as an excuse to avoid doing my job, take the responsibility or pile my work on someone else, I will rather quit my job.



WORKING MOM

After I became a mom everything changed. My job suffered, my blog suffered (I was doing two in parallel right from the delivery room, stupid idea, don't do it!).  I didn't sleep almost nothing for 6 months, I was miserable and wished to go back working for 12 hours rather than being with a screaming baby (there I said it, it was true). When I went to the gym (because I felt shitty in my body) for an hour and left my baby with her father I felt guilty I was taking time away from her and worrying how she is doing.

Working for myself, I realized I don't want to take some business trips and I am ok to earn less if need to be, because my baby is small and she needs me more then I need that extra money or that client I need to travel for (this decision is a luxury many women cannot afford). I just try to make it work without travel or I just don't go or don't work some hours when it doesn't feel right.

There are many sacrifices (if we can call it that way) a mother has to do simply because of how important she is to the young child which father doesn't have to always and it would be insincere from me to say this doesn't hurt sometimes. It would be dishonest to say I don't miss it. I do miss creating new value,  being creative, doing things I love to do full time, meeting new people, dressing up to go to work, making very good money for myself.

But I finally did make peace with it (which took me a very, very long time) to be ok with working part-time for some time, spending quality time with my fabulous little daughter and my boyfriend daily and rigorously organizing my schedule to minute to be able to fit it all in short 24 hours daily.


DON'T SHUSH US

Before I was a mom I have to say I couldn't care less during lunch breaks to listed about stories of colleagues kids pooping or not pooping, sleeping or not sleeping or looking at million of their photos on their phones. But guess what I DID IT ANYWAY. I took it as part of teaching myself compassion even if I couldn't empathize I could certainly sympathize, it takes just a bit of effort and curiosity to do and it means the world to the struggling colleague, a new mom who had to leave her child in nursery and go and be productive at work (it ain't easy I know now).

First time I went on a business trip and had to stay overnight, I left Anabela with her dad and cried the whole ride to the city when the meeting was taking place. I had to stop 3 or 4 times to get my shit together and to continue to drive. On the other hand, it felt sooooo good to sleep in that hotel whole 8 hours without waking up, it was a straight-up miracle! Motherhood can be bipolar like that.

We are all different and we all have different emotional and physical capacities and different personalities, many struggle to concieve and are later understandably much more cautious with their kids then average parent would be which is why I think arguments like 'you are posting to much photos of your child, it's annoying' (I agree with child privacy argument but understand the mother's pride and love) or 'every mother has it hard, you are nothing special, stop complaining' or 'women had it harder before, stop complaining' are very insensitive and selfish. Also, unfollow button is a blessing, always there and better to use than when to post an ugly comment on fragile condition as early motherhood many times is.

I think it's great to talk about all these emotions and everyday issues that are hard, emotional, raw and where we can all be very judgmental.


Finally, if you came to the end of this post and if I can have one point I want you to take out of it is to try to have more compassion to other women and to ask yourself before commenting and posting how will the receiving person feel when they read it and if you are really bringing any value to the conversation. Be kind to other women, even if you don't agree with all they say. Mother or not it is not easy for women to be all they want to be in one life, let's not make it harder for each other.



If you search my blog for fish recipes salmon will come up most often! Other then white fish like sea beam (orada/dorade) baked in the oven salmon is the type of fish I feel most comfortable making as I made it so many times and on so many ways I know it will always come up great, also, it is the quickest and easiest to make which is always a bonus right? :)

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So here we go, this is my Friday go to recipe, a salmon file which I top with salt, pepper, and sweet paprika or with pesto and cherry tomatoes depending on the mood. As a side dish, I usually go with zucchini spaghetti with a bit pesto and salt along with 1 min polenta with some greek yogurt and mint sauce (literally just mix greek yogurt salt and fresh mint leaves and cool) or as I made today with coconut and lime rice.
prep time: 15 minscook time: 18 minstotal time: 33 mins

ingredients

  • 3 salmon filets (one per person)
  • pinch of salt and paper to taste
  • 1 tsp powdered sweet paprika
  • 1.5 cup of jasmine or regular white rice
  • 1/2 cup fresh lime juice
  • 1 handful of chopped cilantro
  • 1 tbsp of coconut oil
  • 1 tsp of sugar
  • 1 cup of coconut milk
  • 1/2 cup shredded coconut
  • 1 cup water
Vegetable Side Dish
  • Steamed broccoli or steamed green beans or asparagus

instructions

  1. Preheat oven to 210 C/410 F. Brush salmon filets with olive oil, and the mixture of salt, pepper, and powdered sweet paprika, place it on baking paper and in the oven for 15-18 min depending on the thickness of your filet (add 4 min for each half inch thickness). Salmon fillets are done when they are easily flaked with a fork.
  2. Heat coconut oil over medium heat, add 1 tsp of sugar and mix it with a spoon add rice and mix until rice becomes lightly sheer like glass. Add water and coconut milk, reduce to low heat and cook for 15 min or as directed on rice packaging, stirring frequently.
  3. After 10 min of cooking, once the liquid is evaporated, steer in cilantro, lime juice, and coconut flakes. Combine well, taste to check if well cooked and serve with steamed vegetable of your choice alongside salmon filet.


How often do you prepare fish?

Bon appetite and please let me know if you have tried it and how you liked this recipe!

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