Some might think your life is easy; money earned can make them dizzy.
They see your life as very shallow, easy, fun and mostly mellow.
They label you as one of the same:
luxury, low IQ, cheap women, fast cars and the fame.

It’s easy to judge those who have made it stately
 and most of their lives sacrificed greatly.
This way envious makes himself feel better, 
rather than admitting that he’s never been a go-getter.

 Please never forget that together we have built a bubble,
 In which we are immune to and protected from all the outside trouble.
Our bubble protects us from the irrelevant things, 
outside noise and all that jealousy brings.
It bounces of all of the Facebook stalkers, 
hurtful comments and gossip talkers.
It keeps us safe and closely together,
 inside of our bubble it is always sunny weather.

Remember I’ll be with you through sunshine and storm; 
nothing can break the bubble we form. 

Vogue Mexico November, 2010.

How many of you ladies can remember the first coffee with your girlfriends after you have started dating a new guy? As soon as you sit down girls say – Sooo? How do you feel about him, it's official now, right?

Then you excitedly start your monolog about your new boyfriend, while blinking with your shinny eyes and explaining how he is very special and different than any other guy so far, how he knows you so well and understands you instantly, how he has incredible sense for humor and he is just... he is just so perfect!

3-5 months later, you start commenting how it is so annoying when he doesn't answer your text messages which are obviously written in a question form, how you don't understand why he has so many female Facebook friends and how sex with him is becoming a bit to...usual.

“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without 
and know we cannot live within.”
~James Arthur Baldwin~

He, while talking to one of his best friends over a beer casually mentions how you have been acting a bit pissy lately, his friend comments it's probably just PMS and they reroute their conversation to football again.

Do we really start showing a different face couple of months into a relationship? Why are we acting so differently first couple of months in relationship and then slowly but surely masks go down. Unintentionally or not, they do start peeling off and the real you which remains should be and is good enough, with all of your flaws and small imperfections which you have been carefully hiding.

Pssss...Don’t sweat the small stuff, they don't even notice it!
Pick your battles and always say what’s on your mind –don't play games (other than those in bed) & remain honest even when there is something uncomfortable you need to share.

Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. 
Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.     
 ~Oscar Wilde~

It is ok to open up and share good & bad, because that is what relationship is all about. It should be a support system during good and bad times, a cushion to fall on a shoulder to cry on & unlimited support source – even when we least deserve it.
We all wear masks, and the time comes when we cannot remove them without removing some of our own skin.
 ~AndrĂ© Berthiaume, Contretemps ~

So...why not try to start with a mask off lovelies?
As I have in one of my previous posts highlighted a number of gentleman rules which I found important to point out as behaviors or gestures that are lately rarely ever seen with young men, this post I dedicate to some of my favorite famous ladies and rules I thought they stand for and have lived by. 

Same as with men, today many women forget to behave like ladies, some take the rules to lightly and take them to gold-digger extreme while others go to other far side of the spectrum and behave like men are utterly useless taking a feminism way too far, doing it all on their own or acting like their mothers.

I personally sometimes go a tad too far thinking I can do everything on my own, which in most cases is true but it shouldn’t have to be that way. 

A lady should also give an opportunity to a man to be a gentleman and to apply some of the gentleman rules so for those who are borderline on the other side of the spectrum I suggest to: let him pay for food & entertainment (at least in front of friends), let him carry stuff for you , protect you and surprise you with homemade breakfast in bed or a small gift but know the limit and try to make it equal most of the times.

Here are in order of importance rules I found most important:


A friend and a faithful follower of my blog – Darko, suggested to do a style comparison and possibly break or confirm stereotypes on basketball vs. Soccer player fashion style so I came to the idea to conduct the interview among two successful athletes, both of who have the same name, are best friends and hopefully can clear some stereotypes on how these two groups of athletes dress.So let’s see what the balers’ had to say ;)

A soccer player

1. Describe a typical basketball player in 5 words. Baggy, hang, relaxed & cool.
2. Which piece of clothing would you spend most money on? Spikes.
3. What is the difference between your day & night look?
My evening look is a bit more mature as long as my comfort is not jeopardized.
4. Man purse – yes or no? 
Yes but rarely, only when I have too much things or when I am traveling.
5. What is your favorite brand? Diesel.
6. Finish the sentence: I wouldn't be caught dead wearing heels.
7. Woman is the sexiest when wearing lingerie.
8. Your train of thoughts when putting your clothes on in the morning is: 
clean – comfortable – ironed.
9. Who is your fashion role model?
 It’s hard to specify, but most of the famous soccer players dress well.
10. How many logos are sufficient on one outfit?
As long as it’s not over the top but logo is not even necessary.

A basketball player

1. Describe a typical soccer player in 5 words. Branded head to toe.
2. Which piece of clothing would you spend most money on? Shoes and sneakers.
3. What is the difference between your day & night look? 
Depends where I am going but during the day I wear sweatpants, sneakers, sunglasses and in the evening jeans.
4. Man purse – yes or no? Definitely not.
5. What is your favorite brand? Whatever makes 3XL and bigger.
6. Finish the sentence: I wouldn't be caught dead wearing: 
jeans and leather sandals together.
7. Women is the sexiest when wearing: nothing at all.
8. Your train of thoughts when putting your clothes on in the morning is:
pants – shirt – sneakers.
9. Who is your fashion role model: I don't have one.
10. How often do you wear pants different then sweatpants or jeans? 
Once or twice a week I wear suite pants.

Photo: Matthew McConaughey for D&G fragrance 

Gentlemen are indeed an endangered species today. This topic is rather sensitive, so when I was discussing it with my male friends they claim that they are not acting like gentleman because many women are not acting like true ladies these days and often abuse the gentleman gestures.  
On the flip side my female friends claim that gentleman are rare to find and that it seems that being a gentleman is not “trendy” right now so many young men are very confused and not quite sure how to be a gentleman towards ladies and at the same time fit in their “wolf pack” and stay cool and macho with their friends.

As I am a lucky enough to currently be dating a gentleman, I felt like sharing a kind reminder to “Gentleman rules” in a series of posts dealing with different topics of what “being a gentleman” is all about with those men who are using a various lazy excuses not to be one, or with the ladies who choose to settle for men who are not gentlemen.

My personal opinion is the following - in order to be treated like a lady, a women must hold herself to the higher standard and act like a lady at all times, not just when convenient  – same goes for a gentleman.  The fact of life is that women are although equal to men – physically weaker gender which is if no other – good enough reason for a man to protect and help her out with at least physical tasks.

Secondly, gender, religion and all other differences and personal preferences aside we would all like to be treated with love, care and respect. So simple, eternal rules:  don’t lie, don’t steal, don’t cheat and treat others as you would like to be treated which we were all taught before the age of 5 by our parents should be applied and repeated to ourselves as mantra each morning  in front of the mirror just like our daily moisturizing cream.

Out of curiosity I would like to hear from you what does it mean for you to be a gentleman and why do you think they are threatened to instinct lovelies?


Many think of jealousy as something dire,
Yet its definition saids it shows our desire,
As long as it stays within the lines,
There is no feeling it undermines.
So don’t think of it as a negative feeling,
Think of it as proof she is scared to lose you,
 And that she finds you appealing.

Maybe it’s still early and you don’t know me that well,
Maybe wrong assumptions rang that warning bell.
Why not keep our hearts open?  So if we ever share the keys,
I am sure the relationship will remain as light as the breeze.

I don’t want you to wear the sign reservada,
Our relationship shouldn’t force you to sacrifice nada.
I want you to wear my invisible hug,
To hold you tighter when you are lonely and need a snug,
To remind you I care for you even when you’re mad,
To prove to you l’ll do everything possible to never see you sad.
To know that what I am saying is honest and true,
To remind you that I am always thinking of you.